“Porn makes you better in bed”

The truth is that porn can harm your ability to enjoy holistic and lasting sexual intimacy with a real person. Porn can decrease your ability to be aroused by your partner because you've trained yourself to be turned on by fantasies.

Porn can make you think she likes what makes her feel degraded and hurt. "There was nothing fun about that sex for me, nothing. It was getting to the point that it was traumatic for me," one anonymous wife shared.

Whether porn increases your desire in the wrong way or makes you less interested in your partner, it's hurting your ability to have healthy intimacy. Porn use over time can make you crave unrealistic or even violent types of sex.

Porn repeats false relationship messages over and over. This is dangerous because, as human beings, we believe misinformation when it is repetitive — even when we initially know it is untrue. It tells you your partner will want sex exactly as much and in the same ways as you do. That sex is the only important thing in a relationship. That kindness doesn't matter.

Real intimacy is built on trust, communication, and genuinely caring for another person. Porn trains you for performance. Real relationships reward presence. The best thing you can do for your real relationship is to stop watching the fake one.